The Trap of being the "Good Guy" in Relationships (by Dr. Roslyn Still)

The “good guy” identity can be both an asset and a trap. As an asset, it suggests that the individual has morals, a likeable personality, and functions at a socially acceptable level. This makes the individual an appealing relationship partner. However, as a trap, the “good guy” identity limits self-expression, interferes with integration of parts-of-Self, and questions the authenticity of relational connection.